A Tribute to My Amazing Girlfriends

While having lunch last week with my friends Jamie and Jan, I couldn’t help but notice the radiance in their faces. We are what society would call women of a certain age, but there is nothing short of absolute prime in these two women.

Being with them and feeling their magnificence made me think of the other women in my life and how utterly amazing they are.

This post is for the girlfriends who make my days so rich and full and rewarding. You are wicked and wonderful…brilliant and breathtaking…fit and fabulous. Your commitment to your passions stands as a testament to your energy and vitality, and there’s no fading in sight.

I’m honored and proud to call you my friends.

Aging without a Road Map

Think about it for a minute: baby boomers are the first generation of women who are moving into maturity without role models. As we enter our 50s and 60s, we cannot look at what our mothers were like at the same age and say, “Yep. that’s going to be me.”

The boomers I know are far more focused on fitness and healthful eating than the generations before them, and whether it’s a testament to good genes or clean living, we all look younger and are more vital than our mothers. That’s the good news. The bad news is: what can we expect as we get older…and older…and older?

In truth, we are aging by the seat of our pants. Our mothers had their mothers to look to for what to expect. Our daughters have us, and if they’re paying attention, they’re learning that it’s possible to run marathons at 55, have a book published at 58, and play the romantic lead in a movie at 61.

But we boomers are a generation stuck in the no-definitive-answers zone, not knowing what’s lurking around the next corner as we make our way toward our golden years.

In truth, it will be a very different journey for all of us. Genetics and lifestyle will certainly affect the paths our lives will take. In spite of the variables, we will all share the not-knowing part…the unexpected, unpredictable changes that will appear as we continue to move forward. The road is not well lit–heck, there are no street lights at all!–so we’re left to make our way through the dark.

In situations like these, it’s good that we have each other.

Long Hair after 50

We women over 50 have all heard the admonitions: long hair is for ingenues, long hair no longer flatters the “mature” face, long hair makes you look like a cavewoman (okay…I made up that last one). But look around and you’ll see significant numbers of woman over 50–and, dare I say, over 60–who are pulling off the look with grace and style, such as Meryl Streep, Jill Clayburgh, Jane Seymour, and Sally Field.


Jill Clayburgh


And the beauty of long hair over 50 is not limited to the celebrity set. Check out my friends Heidi, Merille, and LeeAnn:




We boomers are playing by different rules. In fact, we’re creating new rules. And I, for one, love where those new rules are taking us.

Style for the Baby Boomer Woman

My blog is going to take a different emphasis for a while, at least through the summer. Because I’ve accepted a gig as a style expert on Live Person (liveperson.com/elle-mansfield), I feel it makes sense to support that work by posting exclusively about fashion.

My speciality is baby boomer women, since that’s what I am and I’m all too familiar with the questions that begin to arise as we get older:

* Do I look like I’ve raided my daughter’s closet?

* Must “age-appropriate” be synonymous with “frumpy”?

* How much skin can I show?

* What’s the perfect hemline for a 50-plus woman?

And my favorite question of all:

* What the heck happened to my neck/upper arms/thighs/belly?!

I hope you’ll visit often, and I hope you’ll find things here that help you make good style choices.